UPENDO NDANI YA FAMILIA ZETU

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UPENDO NDANI YA FAMILIA ZETU

Meaning of Love

Love is the desire or passion to please (give happiness) and benefit the loved one at the expense of the self of the lover. But most of the people who claim to be ‘in love’ have an opposite passion burning in them; most are ‘in love’ to receive instead of to give to the loved one. When one is there to receive pleasure and benefits for his/her-self at the expense of the loved one, it is simply called Lust and not Love. (lust  n. strong sexual desire. Ø a passionate desire for something. Ø chiefly Theology a sensuous appetite regarded as sinful.)

 Real love believes that giving is the seed of receiving; in other words, receiving is the fruit of giving. But lust believes the opposite of that. In short, love is sacrificial; Love sacrifices one’s self to live for the benefit of the other person and make the other person happy

36 “Mwalimu, ni amri ipi katika Torati iliyo kuu kuliko zote?’’

37Yesu akamjibu, “‘Mpende Bwana Mungu wako kwa moyo wako wote na kwa roho yako yote na kwa akili zako zote.’ 38Hii ndio amri iliyo kuu, tena ni ya kwanza. 39Nayo ya pili ni kama hiyo, nayo ni hii: ‘Mpende jirani yako kama nafsi yako.’ 40Amri hizi mbili ndizo msingi wa Torati na manabii.’

 A wife or husband is supposed to be your INTIMATE friend and partner in every aspect of life. Infact, perfect marriage partners are the ones who came united out of a close friendship. “

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INTIMATE FRIENDS. (Marafiki wa moyoni)

 ‘intimate!’ These are the people we normally choose among the few close friends. An intimate friend is an opposite sex/gender friend, who has totally caught the attention of your heart in a special way, I mean in a unique way which it can not simply be described by words. An intimate friend is the one you feel very attracted to him/her because you love him/her. There is attraction and passion between you. In simple or common words, we say; is the person you have ‘fallen in love’ with.

·      You admire him/her and you appreciate him/her in every/most aspects of his/her life and conduct.

·      You admire his/her character and attitudes, you admire his/her physical appearance (the figure, the color, facial appearance, etc), and You admire his /her responses and reactions to various situations and circumstances.

·      You love the way he/she speaks, the way he/she smiles, the way he/she eats, the way he/she walks, the way he/she conduct his/her life in general. And also

An intimate friend is a friend whom has won your trust, and you have won his/her trust. You share and hold the deepest feelings and secrets of your hearts. He/she occupies your mind and heart.  Is a friend you always want to be together with and share every good thing you do or experience, When away from him/her, you happen to miss his/her presence very much as it creates a gap in your life. An intimate friend, you always want to communicate with him/her to hear the voice of the one you love, and to know what he/she is going through. You will even incur expenses just to hear from him/her. You will do anything and everything to get in touch and to know how your friend and ‘lover’ is doing. If you are really in love with him/her, distance and business is never an excuse!

In general an intimate friend is a decision or agreement someone makes, to commitment his or her life to another, on the basis of hearts desires, choice and satisfaction, for a particular purpose / direction. /the sharing of one’s life with another or other people/beings, in various aspects of life; such as interests, hobbies, ambitions, desires, visions and dreams, plans and problems, expectations and surprises, believes and faith, discouragements and disappointments, pleasures and pains, etc;

(Mw 2:23-24) “Huyu sasa ni mfupa wa mifupa yangu na nyama ya nyama yangu, ataitwa ‘mwanamke,’ kwa kuwa alitolewa katika mwanaume.’’ 24Kwa sababu hii mwanaume atamwacha baba yake na mama yake na kuambatana na mkewe nao watakuwa mwili mmoja. Yosefu mwana wa Daudi, usiogope kumchukua Maria awe mke wako,(Mt 1:20)

By Thomas SUA